The drawbacks of facebook

[sinjinh1]

So I joined facebook and friended some people I went to high school with.  That's all great, cause it's great to catch up with some of these people and see what they've been up to.

The drawback is that some of them had friended an ex of mine.  Guess what, today he friended me.  Now would be a good time to tell you that this guy was abusive and after an arguement threw me into unfinished lockers at school.  His punishment for this was a day suspension from school.  Now he's e-mailed me cause he wants to get back in touch.

He can't figure out why we hated each other as teenagers!  Couldn't be because he abused me and I was freaking scared of him, could it!  He told me he wants to put the past in the past and be friends again.  Then he told me he's been married three times and that all of his wives have cheated on him.  Gee, I'm shocked.

I'm not comfortable with this guy being on my facebook friends page, but I'll live with it  I just don't know what to do about him wanting to get back in touch.  You don't get over something tramatic like what I went through.

Comments

[towerbridge2006.livejournal.com]

He doesn't have access to any of your personal information, I hope. I wouldn't be comfortable with that contact, either!

[sinjinh1.livejournal.com]

No, the only thing on there is my e-mail address. Although he sent me his phone number and address so I can call him. Yeah right.

[towerbridge2006.livejournal.com]

Sounds like he has major memory issues. :-/

[medelle.livejournal.com]

You can go into your privacy settings and block him completely.

Might be a good idea to just say you don't desire to have contact with him and then block him.

Hang in there!!

[sinjinh1.livejournal.com]

I've thought about blocking him. We'll see how it goes.

[byslantedlight.livejournal.com]

Have you told him specifically why? That it was because he threw you into unfinished lockers as a teenager, and although you know he might have changed over the years you still feel so bad about that that you'd be remembering it all the time? That sorry, but it had a long-term effect on you, and so... you're going to block him, as someone suggested above? But tell him the actual reason - if he has changed he'll feel bad but understand, and if he hasn't... well, better off out of it, right?

I'm so glad I don't do Facebook etc when I hear of things like this... Best wishes, hon!

[sinjinh1.livejournal.com]

I thought about telling him why. I also thought about ignoring him. Of course I was also hoping he wouldn't notice I was on facebook, oh well.