My real life sucks. That's why I love diving into fandom. That's why I love creating fan fiction, even if I am too chicken to share any of it. I've been on LJ for 3 years and still haven't worked up the courage to post any of my fic. I create virtual worlds in Sims all the time. There I can be with whoever I want to be with, or I can play with my favorite characters.
When someone I, let's face it, obsess over does something that deviates from my fantasy, like say get married, I deal and get on with my life. All I care about is that he is happy, whoever he may be. Been dealing with the disappointment of not getting the fantasy guy for 20 some years now. I know that I'm never going to meet (insert name here), let alone get swept off my feet by him. That's not to say that if (insert name here) doesn't show up at the door I won't be thrilled. But I'm not going to go off on his choice of partner, whoever she may be. The only reason I would go off on her is if she was some sort of serial dater. Or if I found out she was really looking for his money. Which did happen to one of the guys I obsess over. And if that person happens to find himself single again, let the fantasy begin anew.
I've been pretty vague in this post, and that's on purpose. Too many times have I seen someone find his Miss Right (or who he thought was Miss Right) only to have his fan base totally go ballistic because of it. It seems to be happening again to more than one guy and I think it's crazy. There's a big line between real life and fantasy and fandom. The point of all this is to say just because this person has found who he thinks he's going to spend the rest of his life with, it's not the end of the world. Who knows what the future holds. Just don't hate the girl cause she stole "your man" or because she ruined your fantasy.